Suck It Up, Buttercup

Be Part of the Solution

About the book


Dominant, direct leaders who don't get emotional get the job done, right? Take charge and cut to the chase, right? Other people who allow their emotions to get in the way of business need to just "suck it up." Right? Wrong

Suck It Up, Buttercup. You might be part of the problem. 

This short book covers topics ranging from personality styles (how some personality styles rub people the wrong way) to communication (which almost always goes wrong) and lack of common sense. Chapter 10 is an "Acting Lesson" which challenges you to change (but only for 15 minutes a day). This thought-provoking book emphasizes that you must shut up and listen to be a leader people will follow.  

Wendy Sellers is The HR Lady who is often heard saying "Suck It Up, Buttercup." The phrase has taken a whole new meaning. In the past, it was directed at what she believed were inept employees. Now it is directed at the true root cause:  leaders who are unwilling to consider others ideas or perceptions.

In other words, discover how to NOT be an a$$hole leader!  All leadership books should be direct, short and realistic. Who has time to read these days?

Book The HR Lady as a Speaker to Energize Your Event or Conference

About The HR Lady


As your event speaker, Wendy is authentic and transparent - above all, she keeps it real. She listens and provides empathy, however, she is direct and there is never any sugar coating!


When Wendy says “Suck It Up, Buttercup”, this means you are about to hear all the facts, proposed solutions and possible consequences of your actions or inactions. Yes, this information may be emotionally painful to hear but in order to do the right thing we must look at every angle together

There is never a hidden agenda. Her focus is your bottom line.

Wendy's business experience is real and was very painful to achieve. Her pain is your gain! Let's get to work and dare we say, we just might have some fun along the way. Enjoy the short book, it is straight-forward and humorous - which is exactly how she speaks.


Wendy Sellers, MHR, MHA, SPHR, SHRM-SCP, Chief Operating Officer, Philanthropic Officer, HR, Operations and Leadership Coach, author, speaker and co-owner of BlackRain Partners LLC., a firm focused on People, Performance, and Profit. She has been a leadership coach and facilitator for hundreds of corporate training and development events and an HR advisor and adjunct faculty member.

Wendy believes that well-behaved women rarely make history. While she is not looking to make history, she desires to be the change she wants to see in this world. She says, "I speak up and challenge the status quo. I ask controversial questions". She has helped hundreds of executives and leaders increase organizational productivity, leading to increased profits, and a strong bottom line. Wendy can be heard speaking at conferences, community events, and other venues. She is passionate about giving back and educating others on leadership and "HR Reality." 


Wendy has a master's degree in Human Resources, a master's degree in Health Care Administration, is HR certified as an SHRM-SCP and SPHR, is health/life insurance licensed, is a Dale Carnegie course graduate, and is an active board member and volunteer for multiple non-profits. 

Wendy has over 20 years’ experience in HR, change management, operations, strategy and leadership development in all size business (local startup to global enterprise) in a wide variety of industries and life-cycles.

Previous conference speaker at:

· HR Florida Conference 2015, 2016, 2017, 2018

· Jacksonville SHRM Annual Conference

· Space Coast SHRM Annual Conference

· Numerous regional SHRM Chapters

· Flagler County Thrive Business Summit

· Dozens of Small Business and Non Profit Events

· World at Works, Total Rewards Conference 

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Training, Development and Coaching

Let's assess your pain points, find the root causes and implement people strategies to increase your productivity and profit through:

  • Leadership Development
  • Executive & Manager Coaching
  • Human Resources Consulting
  • Employee Development
  • Corporate Culture Initiatives
  • Change Management Programs
  • Corporate Retreats

As business consultants, we work with CEO’s and business leaders who are focused on improving trust in leadership, frustrated with the lack of communication, accountability, and follow-through in their company and/or interested in changes in their company culture.

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Wendy The HR Lady

Expect ask a lot of questions to find the truth about your business pain. We will develop and implement long-term business and leadership solutions, together. Achieving your vision is our goal.

HR is a Profit Center

Human resources, also known as human capital, is a profit center NOT a cost center. When managed effectively and lead to achieve the organizations vision, profit is obtained! Think about it - why else would you hire people?

Performance Improvement Plans

If you are using Performance Improvement Plans simply to create a document trail before terminating an employee, you are part of the problem. PIP's do work! They can actually improve performance (hence, their name), however they must be done right. "How can I improve my performance if you do not tell me what I am doing wrong or give me the tools to make corrections?"

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